First let me say Happy Mother’s Day to all the women doing their thing out there and to all the fellas who play the role of mother & father in their kid’s life.. Hope yesterday was a relaxing time for you..
So of course today, I have a Mother’s Day themed blog. Lol.. Well, last Friday or Thursday someone mentioned on Facebook how this guy was on Steve Harvey’s showing saying he doesn’t get his wife & the mother of his children anything for Mother’s Day. The only person he buys a gift for is his mother. It got me to wondering, is he wrong.
Personally, I don’t think he is. His wife, though yes the mother of his children, isn’t his mom. Why does he need to give her a gift? She gets Valentine’s Day (though I don’t believe in that also), Anniversary, Her Birthday, and Christmas. If anyone is to give her a gift on being the great mother she is, it should be the kids. What if they don’t feel she is a great mom? So now, she got a gift for nothing... lol... Ok, now that is a bit over the top, I know. But my point is the reason for Mother’s Day is to thank YOUR mother for all that she has done for you and show your gratitude. Well, that means her kids should do that, not him.
When I was a child, I made my mom cards saying how much I loved her and Happy Mother’s Day and those meant more to her than any store bought gift or card. I actually remember when I was like 11 or 12 I’d saved up my money to get her this cheap little necklace from Service Merchandise. Man, nothing could erase that smile on her face that day. It wasn’t some gift my dad got her and said it was from me, no it was an actual gift from me showing my appreciation. That is what mattered.
I mean, one lady came on the air and said she was divorcing her husband... Of 20 years mind you... Because she never got over the fact that 6 months after she had their son he didn’t get her nothing on Mother’s Day and said she wasn’t his mother. He wasn’t lying. She wasn’t. And if you that gift meant that much to you, obviously you don’t get the true spirit of Mother’s Day. I’m sorry, but for Father’s Day I’m thanking the mothers of my children for giving me the greatest gift of all... MY KIDS... They are my gift.
Somehow we lose sight of that within this commercialized society that says I need to go to Jared or every kiss beings with Kay to make your perfect day. I say, BULLISH! This year, my mom texted me and told me that she’d heard from my brother and sister but hadn’t yet heard from me and it was shocking because I’m normally the first to say something to her. I told her this year I wanted to try something new and give her the gift of peace! I call or text her just about every day about various things whether it’s an issue in my life, something going on with my kids, or just to say hi. This year I wanted to give her the gift of peace. Give her a day free of having to be Mom or Grandma. Just a day, free to enjoy herself and do whatever she wanted to do because for 364 days out the year I’m right there in her ear... lol... And she said thank you. My mom knows how much I love her & what she means to me and if she doesn’t feel that all day EVERYDAY, then me saying it on Mother’s Day really isn’t appreciation now is it???
If you agree or disagree, I’d love to hear about it. Please write a comment and let’s discuss this. Until the next blog... Take care & be sure to check me out & follow me on Twitter at www.twitter.com/hlturley2 or like my page on Facebook at www.facebook.com/HaroldLTurley2... Take care!!!!!
© May 2012 by Harold L. Turley II
Im just saying Mothers Day is a day for all mothers wether it be your mom,baby momma,sister or friend. I do think some recognition is needed. We as mothers sacarifice so much for our children and fam that often we neglect ourselves. So on one day out of the year why not celebrate all the mothers in your life for the outstanding job they do
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree. I do think Mother's deserve recognition for the wonderful things they do, however.. Does it mean I have to give you a gift? When did the gift become the recognition? I truly feel that we put more stock into the gift then we do anything else. Do you know what my sister got for Mother’s Day? She got a Happy Mother’s Day, keep doing the great job you are. That’s it. Outside that, what else does she need? I mean, trust me. I understand that as a parent you do so much for your kids but since when do we deserve kudos for things we are SUPPOSED TO DO. Lol!!! That’s not extra credit, no, that was the task at hand. You supposed to raise your child. You supposed to be the best mother you supposed to be. The recognition is in the finished product. Don’t get it twisted though, I love all my PARENTS OUT THERE.. Mothers AND Fathers! Take that day, Mothers Day or Fathers Day to RELAX… But the gift, yeah.. Please don’t let that be your goal or your recognition. Love the comment though.. Keep them coming!!!
DeleteI don't expect anything from my S/O...this year my sons made me a card and it was thoughtful and meant the world to me. Holidays have become so commercialized...I don't need a day when I get my recognition all year round so I agree
ReplyDeleteTotally agree.. Couldn't have said it better myself.
DeleteI think a card would be enough, just to let your kids mom know that you do appreciate her
ReplyDeleteOK, I'm late... sue me. LOL But this year, I didn't get my mom a mother's day gift. I sent an e-card. I know my mom. She totally buys into the commercialization of holidays and really wanted a gift to open but once I explained to her that I wasn't going to frivolously spend money on a gift just because someone said hey, in May we will celebrate you! I think she understood... a little. I send my mom flowers to her job when I know she's having a tough time or stressing out, if we go to the mall, I sneak little gifts to her and do other things throughout the year to show my appreciation so I don't feel bad about not getting her a gift card or new handbag on Mother's day this year.
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